Sunday, February 22, 2015

NaBloPoMo: Make...In-person Connections?


I had to go back to my old Facebook messages to see how Carol and I initially connected as I really couldn't recall. This is how ...

I had connected with Carol via her blog posts of course. It was after I nominated her for a blogging award last July that our interactions started to increase, though slowly at first. I didn't connect with her till a few months later when I asked her about voice activation in response to a comment she had made on another blogger's post.

A month later, I asked her a question about a writing challenge we were both involved in. And then due to a remark she made on one of her blog posts, I asked her if she could do a health assessment over the phone. Early December last year, I nominated her blog for another award.

It was then that we connected a bit deeper. Carol responded saying that she had already been nominated for that award several times, and twice within the past week. However, she informed me that she follows me religiously (meaning reading my blog posts). Her comment blew me away and tickled me pink 'cause if anything I have more reason to follow her blog!

Then she gave me a virtual hug saying that sometimes she feels my pain. I was curious about her remark so questioned her about it. She was referring to my emotional pain. I figured she was probably an empath which didn't surprise me at all. (I have only met one other person other than my mother who is a true blue empath, 100%! Carol is my third.)

In early January, Carol messaged me, "If you are in Vancouver - I could meet with you in person" in follow-up to to the health questionnaire which I had completed and sent to her. I was surprised yet delighted: where did she live? How close was she?

I later learned while reading her book that she used to live in North Vancouver where I live - it IS a small world! - and lived only about an hour give or take away from where she lives now.

I had hoped we could meet on my birthday which was on a Saturday in January; however, that didn't suit her schedule. She was to meet with another online blogger, Diane Bjorling, a "social media guru" according to Carol (and perhaps to herself as well) and would meet me after visiting with her.

However late the night prior, Carol discovered that she was to pick up her dogs and it had to be that weekend. So I thought, "Great, I have another weekend to clean and tidy up before she comes over."

So instead, we met the following Saturday later afternoon, not late morning as originally planned. Though excited, I was also nervous about meeting her. I can't recall why. However, as soon as I heard her voice when she called to tell me she was on her way, I felt a sense of relief. I think she laughed and it put me at ease.

Though I thought she looked a bit different from her photo online, she didn't sound anything at all like I imagined her too.

I noticed two other things about her: (1) she looked young, younger than me as I could see - I swear - NO wrinkles! and (2) she laughs a lot and I realized that it is her humour that helps to keep her going.

We were to meet
for one or two hours, though I think we ended up meeting for longer, 2-1/2 to 3 hours I believe. Regardless, time just whizzed by.

I remember wanting to ask questions about her, putting the ball in her court despite knowing that she was here to see me.

Right before she left, she signed a copy of her book (which I had asked and kept reminding her to bring with her...I didn't want her to forget!)

On Amazon online, the description for her book reads as follows,
"Carol is a determined resilient woman who endured traumatic events that would cause most others to roll over and quit. The challenges of cancer, rape, marital abuse, jail, loss of child and financial ruin coupled with a determination to succeed compels the reader to root for her to triumph. You will identify with Carol on many emotional terrains of love, loss, suffering, pain, heartbreak and ultimately renewal. This is her gripping story."
I'm not sure if I could have said it any better than that. And also if I could have, I would have read her book straight through. I was enthralled by it.

Carol says this about herself on her blog post, "If I Can Overcome Tragedies, So Can You." However, I think that statement requires - qualified actually - an exclamation remark at the end of it! (Hint, hint Carol!)

And by the way, we did meet this past weekend again, this time in Horseshoe Bay. (See photo on yesterday's post.)

Carol does love to share her inspirational life story and offer hope to others, and I am so glad she has with me and others. I highly recommend you read her book and her blog, the latter has some amusing stories and anecdotes as well.

18 comments:

  1. I have been reading Carol for over a year now and she is truly inspiring! I like her fighting spirit and I simply LOVE her stories about her dogs, especially Louis Vuitton! :) Good to know that you connected and bonded with Carol, Elly :)

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    1. Yes, she is truly inspiring Shilpa, and I too love her dog stories. I am grateful to have connected with her in person. :) <3

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  2. A beautiful tribite to a friend from another friend ! I have also felt that Carol is a sincere and loving person with a heart of gold.Wish your friendship to be everlasting.

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    1. I agree with "heart of gold" as that thought came to me after meeting with her again this past weekend. I hope and reckon our friendship will be everlasting! :) <3

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  3. wow you guys met!! that's awesome :D Carol is amazing blogger, and so are you... It must be quite an evening when two awesome women met :)

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    1. It IS awesome Raj! ;) Thanks for your kind compliment. :) And yes, fun even when talking about serious matters in part. ;) <3

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  4. She is truly inspiring as evident from what she writes..Wonderful that you could meet her.. :)

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    1. I am so lucky to meet such an inspiring woman Naba. So grateful! :) <3

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  5. I need to get my hands on Carol's 'Battered hope'...really curious on knowing how exactly she went through all that. She's been quite supporting all through my pet dog, Roger's illness and death. I agree, she's an empath through through.

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    1. I certainly highly recommend it Vinnie and you may wish to read it all in one go, if you can! ;) And yes, she's definitely an empath. <3

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  6. Glad to know you and Carol connected offline and hit it off too. I love it when blogging connections turn into real-life connections too :)

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    1. Yes, it was certainly wonderful to have connected with her online and then meet Carol in person. It would be great to one day meet you too....who knows? ;) <3

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  7. It's pleasant to know you and Carol Graham have become such close friends. She's a wonderful person, indeed.

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    1. Well, becoming close would be more like as we only met twice; however, hopefully our relationship will develop to that of close friends! ;) <3

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  8. Rarely am I speechless but I don't know what to say. Your words were far too kind and I do not deserve them. You are the one, Elly, who is extending such a wonderful hand of friendship. Thank you -- I am humbled by your posts and hope I can eventually live up to your words.

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    1. Really?! You speechless over me? Now I'm speechless! ;) LOL Ok, well truly I didn't even butter this up as much as I wanted to as I wasn't quite sure how to put it, but along the lines of you being a celebrity - more than that - as I don't idolize any of them. You were an exception! ;) <3

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    2. You're welcome...again Carol! ;) <3

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