I am aware that trust is an issue with many, including myself (at times, ahem)! ;)
Trusting others begins with trusting oneself, yourself! If you aren't trustworthy of others, what is it about yourself that you don't trust?
You see, everything we see in others, both 'good' and 'bad' is a reflection of us. Did you read my inspired poem 'You' on this very issue? (http://xpressyouressence.blogspot.ca/2012/11/tribute-to-you.html) But you knew that already, didn't you? Didn't you?! ;)
To trust someone is to surrender and let go of any preconceptions and the like. It is akin to God holding you in the palm of His hands - these words are coming through me right now, though I am no longer religious. And yet I do believe in God/Spirit (substitute what term you prefer).
Essentially, it is having faith and belief that all is right in your world, all is well, all is meant to be. Que sera, sera (what will be, will be).
Actually going backwards here - could have started with a google definition of trust, both as a noun and a verb. As a noun it is a "firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something." The verb definition is the same sans (the word) 'firm' as in "believe in the reliability, truth, ability, or strength of someone or something."
Synonyms for trust as a noun are as follows: confidence, belief, faith, certainty, assurance, conviction, credence; reliance and as a verb: rely on, depend on, bank on, count on, be sure of. These are words that come from the heart ultimately. Both definitions carry a weight of solidity as in a rock or better yet a foundation, say as in building a house.
Imagine for a moment being with a group of people where you are told that you need to jump from a place high above them where they catch you whilst you free fall forwards or backwards. Trust is like that.
Letting go, surrendering, free falling if you will, are some ways to learn to trust completely, fully. Have faith and belief and trust in yourself and/or God/Spirit and this can catapult you to believe and let go and surrender, completely, fully. This can be easier said than done.
Below is a copy of a photo of me rappelling down the side of a cliff. From experience, I can only tell you that I think this act requires A LOT of trust: Trust that I will make it down alive, trust in the ropes and cables to keep me secure, trust in the cliff/mountain to keep me steady, trust in the people who secure me...have I missed anything?!
And what did rapelling require? Letting go, surrendering to the process, and trust and faith and belief that I was going to be okay in the end...and hopefully have fun in the process! ;)
Can you recall an incident of where you had to have absolute trust in someone and/or something?
Aha! rappelling is my fav! Rappelling requires TRUST, big time. Trust in yourself, trust in the instructor and trusting the system and processes too :)
ReplyDeleteGlad you love rappelling Shilpa! :) And it certainly does require A LOT of trust, big time, based on the reasons you state. :) <3
DeleteWow! You are brave doing that rappelling, Elly. I couldn't do that, I don't think.
ReplyDeleteI think we put our trust in others all the time, especially when traveling anywhere. We trust that the pilots will fly the plane and not crash it. We trust that the other drivers on the road will follow the rules and not run into us.
Great thought provoking post and good examples about trust.
If I can do it (re. rappelling), so can you Cat! I didn't think I could either and then I ended up loving it! :) You might too! ;) Yes, trust is an important element in daily life including travelling. Thanks for yoru comments. :) <3
Deletewow I would love to do rappelling one day. It looks so exciting. I guess you need to trust your instincts a lot.
ReplyDeleteI think you might enjoy it Raj as I see you as being an adventurous type with your travel and such! ;) <3
DeleteI think Trust takes time to establish. But it's basis is in honesty. Without either there can never be any kind of relationship.
ReplyDelete--Mee (The Chinese Quest)
In relationships, that is for sure the case! Thanks for visiting and commenting Mee. :) <3
DeleteYou are very adventurous Elly ! :) I wouldn't be able to do it in a million years. Although I have flown by air quite a lot during my childhood years, during one particular flight there was a brief free fall which made me not trust planes at all. :( It is something I dread till today. So you are right when you say we need to trust and give it our everything. :)
ReplyDeleteWell, actually it was part of a 'bootcamp' like experience! ;) I can see how something traumatic, even briefly, can make you fearful to attempt this. However, if you did consider doing so to overcome your fear, you might end up surprising yourself. However, no pressure as trust is important...some things just take time. :) <3
DeleteI usually start from a place of trust, until someone breaks it. Oh wow Elly you are brave.
ReplyDeleteThat's great that you are open-hearted like that Suzy as most people are/do the opposite in terms of building trust. So I think that is brave of YOU! :) Nah, I was scared chicken...it was part of a 'training camp' if you will... ;) <3
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